What are the chances you're gonna find your soulmate or potential wife in a bar or club? I've been told these aren't the places to go if you want a lasting relationship, but until this recent match.com study, I didn't know the odds.
The website partnered with a research firm and surveyed 7000 married people to see where they met their match.
38% at work/school
27% through a friend/family member
17% online dating site
Wait, where's bar/clubs? Oh yeah, here it is...
8%.
A very tiny part of marriages began in the bar. Now, keep in mind that the survey is sponsored by a dating site and this may affect the results. Also realize the number might be low because responders may not be totally truthful ("I met my husband in a club" may still be a taboo).
But still, that number does reenforce my suspicion that you probably aren't gonna find the girl of your dreams out in the bar or club. It suggests that women who want to get married either don't hang out much in these places, or these women will fuck dudes from the bar but don't as a rule take them seriously as a potential spouse. The study doesn't appear to shed light on the reasons.
The big winners for LTRs, it would then seem, are social circles and work/school. For sure, those are the places I always met my girlfriends.
I don't recommend giving up cold approach in bars, which I still feel is an essential skill for many reasons not least of which is inner game development. But you may want to invest more energy into growing your social circle. I personally am not in school, but if I were I'd certainly be making the most of this as should you. As for work gaming, I am opposed to it (though back when I didn't know any better, I dated plenty of work chicks). If you don't care, then go for it. That's probably where you're gonna find your next ex-wife.
http://cp.match.com/cppp/media/CMB_Study.pdf
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