2 reasons to game

I was sitting at the crew meeting last night with Erika Awakening and I heard guys express reservation about speaking honestly with a girl because it could ruin their chances. And so if the guy was feeling anxious, or was projecting past relationships into the current one, rather than express his concerns he pushed his negative feelings deeper. Though this approach wasn’t working long term, it made for a pretty good band-aid.

Yes, there is sound logic strategically to not being fully honest with people about your emotions. You won’t get the girl if you look like a pussy. On the other hand, being able to speak your mind freely is therapeutic, and while it may sink the current interaction, it’ll help with future girls.

It boils down to having two goals when you game:

The first: it’s about you.
The second: it’s about her.

Things that aren’t challenging to you and which advance the interaction forward, are about her. Getting the girl. Things that challenge you emotionally and are not intended to move things along are about you. You can have one without the other, or they can be compatible.

Examples of saying/doing things that are about you:
“Wow, I’m trying to think of something to say right now but you’re making me super nervous.”
“I was gonna approach you 10 minutes ago but you’re really hot so I’m actually intimidated.”
Blowing yourself out on purpose with absurd comments to toughen your skin.
Escalating too hard to get past the anxiety you feel, even though it creeps her out.

Ok, so here’s another one of my famous metaphors…

You are the general commanding an army. Your army is malnourished, tired and getting sick from dysentery. Should you be focusing your attention on: a) strategies to win the war, or b) improving the health of your troops?

Seems like a no-brainer. If you let your troops die, you ain’t winning the battle. If you spend all your energy on tactics, at the expense of providing basic assistance to the soldiers, then all that energy is mental masturbation.

This is exactly the same with game, though instead of going into combat, you’re trying to seduce a broad. Here, your inner game is the battalion, sick and on the verge of collapse.

Say you are feeling a negative emotion in set. Your soldiers are sick. Do you decide to stifle those emotions because it’s a better tactical decision, or instead do you bring those emotions to the surface and express them, because doing so will help heal your inner game?

If your troops are sick, fucking take care of the troops.

Worrying about her – that is, wondering if a certain strategy is the best outer game - in this case, is a luxury. When your inner game sucks, it should all be about you. As your inner health improves, you can then shift focus onto her. Once you’ve conquered whatever is internally stopping you from success, then you can reconsider the best strategies to win the war.

Always be cognizant of this in field. If a set doesn’t go well, remind yourself, “well it’s about me anyways.” If you’re afraid to say or do something, still do it because “it’s about me.”

In a final example, yesterday I called a chick I met last week. I had a bunch of reasons to delete the number and move on (one reason being I didn’t even remember her fucking name lolzzz). I envisioned the awkwardness of calling up a girl who might not remember me, whose name I didn’t even know. And that’s when I made the decision to call. Even though the call could’ve ended up weird and humiliating, or a waste of time, or her getting pissed (it didn’t by the way), I did it anyway…for me.